Everybody lies. It doesn’t matter who you are, it is impossible to come across a human who doesn’t lie. In fact, there are many different kinds of liars. Some are pretty little liars, while others are manipulative, compulsive liars.
Lies can be trivial or hurtful and serious. Lying can deeply injure relationships. Finding out if someone has lied to you is as easy as checking on little things they stated, but there are other ways too. A person’s sentence structure, body language, and tone of voice can tell you if they are lying.
Let’s first look at the issue – why do most people lie? Well, some do it for self-preservation, while some are habitual liars. Whatever their reasons may be, there are a few recognized psychological reasons people lie.
What Is Lying?
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It may be an exaggeration to state that lying is the biggest art of deception. However, sometimes, people use certain ways of telling the truth that may not be completely truthful. When people lie, there is always a level of self-protection that is involved. These moments can often educate you about a person’s true character.
A person who chooses to tell the truth even though it would not protect their interests is a human with great character. Lying is often dangerous on its own, but if the person lies and gets caught, the outcome may be even more embarrassing and humiliating than the truth.
But, if one can get away with it, should they lie?
The Definition Of A Lie
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A lie is “an intentionally false statement” that is stated by a person. There are a lot of things involved in this. Obviously, there are different kinds of lies people generally tell. There is a difference between falsely bragging about playing the piano and claiming to be a messenger of God. This is because the person claiming to be godly will cause unnecessary distress to more people when compared to the other case.
The statement that all liars are the same is not true. There are different kinds of lying disorders or personalities. For some people, compulsive lying could be a symptom of a personality disorder. Those who falsely brag about themselves may not be embellishers, but they may be dealing with narcissistic personality disorder or low self-esteem. And then, there are pathetic liars, who lie to people to extract a pathos response.
Let us look at the types of liars in detail.
Different Types Of Liars
The different kinds of liars include compulsive liars, pathological liars, and sociopaths. There are also people who are occasional liars. These people usually tell white lies, which are essentially meaningless and do not result in any harm.
1. Compulsive Liars
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Compulsive liars lie because of several reasons. However, you can always find out if they are lying. Their stories don’t usually add up. They are also very obvious and display the classic lying behaviors, such as avoiding eye contact, breaking out into a sweat, and tripping over their words or rambling.
There are two kinds of compulsive liars – narcissistic liars and habitual liars. Narcissistic liars usually have a narcissistic personality disorder. These people usually make up grand stories centered around themselves. They are also prone to embellishment. Narcissistic liars always make themselves out to be the conquering heroes, no matter what the situation is. Most of the stories they narrate seem a bit far-fetched or are downright unbelievable.
On the other hand, habitual liars constantly lie, practically all the time. For them, lying has become a regular habit, and they see no harm in doing so.
2. Pathological Liars
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Pathological liars lie as a response to any stimuli. These people are excellent liars because they lie constantly and make up stories so unnecessarily and often that it becomes extremely difficult to distinguish the truth from false statements. Unlike the compulsive liar, pathological liars are near impossible to catch in the act. Pathological lying is also known as pseudologia fantastica.
Pathological liars know how to play the eye contact game – when lying, instead of looking away, they fix their gaze upon you. These types of liars use their pathological lying trait as a defense mechanism.
It could be that they lie to avoid something traumatic that happened in their lives, such as abuse. They use lies to protect themselves when a situation goes bad. Of course, no matter what, there is no excuse for lying, but it sure does make it easier to understand why some good people choose to lie.
If you are aware that a pathological liar is spinning a tale, it is important to call them out on it. But make sure you do this in a non-aggressive way so that person doesn’t feel embarrassed or threatened.
3. Sociopathic Liars
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These types of liars can be very difficult to deal with. Sociopathic liars lack empathy. They do not care if the lies they state impact others negatively or even actively cause harm. This type of liars can be narcissistic and super charming, but this isn’t always true.
Sociopaths are master manipulators. They tell you fictional stories to get you to do what they want, whenever they want it. You are nothing but putty in their hands because they are not capable of feeling sorry for you. Being the target of a sociopath will likely feel horrible because it will conflict with your morals and your sense of right and wrong. A sociopath will continue to manipulate you and get you to see things his or her way until you give them what they want.
As we already mentioned, sociopaths do not feel any empathy. But they are excellent actors. So, if you tell a sociopathic liar that you are not comfortable with something, they will likely not care but will surely act as if they do. They are extremely dangerous and can wreck your peace and mental balance as you spend more and more time with them.
4. White Liars
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We often assume that white lies are not really lies. People who always tell little white lies here and there often feel that they are harmless or even beneficial.
White liars often mix the truth with the lies. They do it so that when people catch them at it, they tend to believe that they didn’t mean to deceive and were probably confused themselves. However, sometimes, a person may tell white lies when trying to protect someone from the truth if it is too hurtful or damaging.
5. Careless Liars
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Careless liars are one of a kind. They lie all the time and don’t much care about morals and ethics. Most careless liars are aware of their dishonesty as they don’t put in much thought behind the lies and are generally very sloppy.
If you know a careless liar, it may be a good idea to confront them about it. It is most likely that they are aware of what exactly they are doing. But, at the same time, it does not mean that they will change themselves or even admit it. Be prepared to walk away from people like this, or it may cause you a lot of stress and heartbreak.
6. Occasional Liars
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Most people tell a lie occasionally, although it is not something to be applauded or accepted. One of the relatively better things about occasional liars is that this is not a regular thing.
The sweet thing is, they usually feel so guilty about it that they admit their lies and ask for forgiveness. Most of the times, if you call out an occasional liar on their lies, they will be genuinely sorry and want to work on it and change.
Let’s now understand how to deal with liars.
How To Deal With Liars
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There are many different ways of dealing with liars. The best thing you can do is not react aggressively or with anger – although this is easier said than done and is incredibly difficult.
The liar is expecting an explosive reaction from you anyway and will use this as a diversion and turn the entire situation against you. Be aware that their version of events is likely false. The best way of dealing with liars is to firmly but politely confront them, tell them that you are aware of the truth, and that you won’t stand being lied to. Get yourself out of this toxic situation.
If you find out that someone has told what they call a ‘white lie, and the lie doesn’t really harm anyone, it is probably best to let it go. You may hint it to the person that you are aware of the truth and are letting it go this one time, else this may become a habit. Always letting go of white lies can cause issues with trust and intimacy, so you need to deal with it.
Lying is a very complex issue, especially if a family member is involved. The best way to protect yourself is by determining what kind of liar you are dealing with. No matter how much the other person tries to sway you, the best thing to do is to keep your morals intact and remain confident in the truth. Stick to the facts and don’t give in – this is the best way to deal with liars, whether big or small, manipulative, or harmless.
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