Johny Johny,
Yes Papa
Eating Sugar?
No Papa,
Open Your Mouth?
Ha Ha Ha!
Well, little Johny was taught not to lie to anybody, but that’s because little Johny was a kid and he wasn’t in a relationship with anyone. So, you’re allowed. What’s the biggest lie you have told your partner? Think harder, there must be something that you brushed under the carpet because you didn’t want your partner to pick a fight with you. Was it about the food they made for you or was it about their new haircut that you disliked? We understand that besides basing your relationship on the strong pillars of truth, loyalty, and commitment, there’s another important element that, in a way, nurtures your relationship. Although it is seldom spoken about because of its dubious nature of nobility between two people sincerely in love with each other, lying is something that we are all guilty of.
Before you pull me out for advocating the culture of lying and for encouraging the inherent liars in some of us, let me make this clear — We are talking about white lies that are okay to be told in a relationship. However, partners in relationships that stand on the strong foundation of transparency and understanding are so comfortable with each other that they wouldn’t need to shield themselves with white lies. But, sometimes, there are situations when an innocuous lie is better than a bitter and shattering truth that pierces your partner’s heart, right? After all, Jis jhoot se kisi ka ghar basta hai … woh jhoot, jhoot nahi hota.
Here are the lies that we give a green signal to and these are safe (you won’t get into trouble for these):
7. Dirty Texting Them That You’re In Your Lingerie When You’re Actually In Your PJs
It so happens that your boyfriend/ husband/ man of interest chooses to get naughty with you the exact moment you want to jump into bed with a tub of popcorn and watch the latest episode of your favorite show. But, it’s not such a bad a thing to fudge the truth and say that you’re baring it all in your birth suit or bringing up the heat in your laced lingerie, right? After all, you both are playing around and it’s okay to lie about your clothing. However, be sure to not lie about your feelings (you know, the ones that give you ‘goosebumps’).
6. Appreciating Their Cooking Prowess
Picture this: your spouse/partner has spent three-quarters of the day on the web browsing for the best recipe to give you a foodgasm and they manage to cook up something really special for you. You take the first bite and realize that the food is burnt, has no taste, and is as hard as your boss’s heart. And there they are, sitting, eagerly anticipating a positive response. What do you do? Now, if your relationship is stronger than nylon, then be frank and say what you feel. Else, you should just smile and say that it’s the best thing you’ve ever eaten. We guarantee you that this move will save your relationship.
5. Not Mentioning About How Hot Your Co-worker Is
Having a reel life crush is different from having one in real life. You can joke around saying you want to be in the same room as Jason Momoa or Kylie Jenner, and still not get beaten up by your partner. But, if there’s a co-worker who’s hot as hell and you think that they are extremely attractive, there are two things that you should do: One, maintain distance, pal. You’re in a relationship and you love your partner. So just eye-candying is cool. Nothing more. Not even flirting. Two, don’t ever mention their hotness to your partner. If they ask you, just say that the person in question isn’t your type. You definitely don’t want your partner to assume that you’re having a steamy affair while you’re actually slogging your tushie off at work
4. A Facebook Request Or A Message From An Ex
Okay, this is extremely tricky territory, guys. First things first, don’t accept the request, no matter how long-gone the relationship is or how happy you both are in your own lives. Just don’t. Now that you’ve paid heed to my advice, do yourself a favor and don’t indulge in an emotional connection and affair with them either. It never ends there. Next, don’t tell your partner about it. This information will not make them happy and it will certainly invite a tad bit of insecurity, at the least. Just, delete the request/message, forget about it and go on with your life.
3. Pretending Like You Didn’t Watch The Movie Or Show You Planned On watching together
If your partner is not into shows, then you’re lucky. But, if you both watch shows together and you were selfish enough to not contain your excitement and go ahead and watch the show without them, your partner will label you as mean, impatient, and ruthless. So, maybe just brush up on your acting skills a little, and fake it like you never watched it. Well, you can pretend to be shocked at every cliffhanger in the show, but you can’t do that all through the season.
2. Stalking Their Ex, Their Friends, Their Family, Their Driver, Etc.
We agree that social media has made us well equipped with the skills to become a detective, but that doesn’t mean you stalk all the people in your partner’s life. Even if you do, keep it to yourself. Your partner doesn’t need to know that you have a crazy little Sherlock Holmes in you. Even if you spent enough time on their ex’s Insta profile to understand that s/he is vegan, loves dogs and is a party animal, don’t go around announcing it.
1. “You’re The Biggest I’ve Ever Seen.”
Look, while some of us may be blessed with partners with a good size down there, others wouldn’t mind a few more inches. So, if you’re among those who want more, you can keep that thought yourself and lie a little, because it matters to them. Guys care about their little boys, so do them a solid and tell them that you’ve never seen something that gigantic. On the other hand, if there’s no need for you to lie, then, congratulations, sister, you’ve got yourself a package!
So, white lies such as these are allowed but we don’t suggest that you keep huge secrets from your SO. Even if it was a drunk kiss or a one-off thing, don’t deceive your partner. Know your line, and never cross that. Don’t make false promises, don’t fake your emotions, and don’t indulge in flattery all the time. All in all, if your relationship grows into something serious, you should make sure that you both are comfortable being your honest selves.
What’s the most common lie you tell your SO? Tell us in the comments below.
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